My ABCs of Life
Always have an appetite. For food, for learning, for love.
Build strong, healthy relationships.
Control what you can, let go of what you can’t.
Dance at least once a day- it is so empowering.
Eat well- meaning, eat what keeps you healthy, BUT also treat yourself to happiness. Don’t deprive yourself of the food you love to eat!
Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.
Give your best self to those who deserve it. And for those who don’t deserve your best- don’t give them any version of yourself.
Help when you can, however you can.
Introduce yourself. You never know who you may meet!
Justifying your reasoning with “because I want to” is enough, but it may not always be right. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes, but think carefully.
Kindness truly matters. Be kind to friends. Be kind to acquaintances. Be kind to strangers. Be kind to kids. Be kind to elders. Just be kind.
LAUGH. Never hold back a giggle. Never apologize for laughing. Let your body laugh. (Once one of my student’s tooted and became super apologetic and embarrassed. I did all I could not to giggle because, well, I’m an “adult”, but then one of his friends giggled and softly said “it’s ok”, which in turn made another friend giggle and do the same, which in turn made ME giggle and do the same. “Excuse you” I smiled. This child went from morbidly uncomfortable to smiling and giggling with his friends over something he thought he’d get in trouble for! The power of a laugh!)
Make time. Make the time to do things for yourself. Make the time to spend with those you care about. Make time to do the necessary evils. Make.the.time.
Never skip a chance to pray. You may not be religious, you may not even believe in the same religion I do, but regardless, we all find ourselves in situations where we feel the need to just think aloud or to ourselves..we’re talking to someone..something..but we may not know who/what. Talk anyway. Think anyway. Pray anyway. And if you’re a believer, then you know.
Observe. Observe your surroundings, the people around you, and your feelings. Be in the moment. Observe so you can better “be”.
Play. Have fun. Whether it’s dress up with your kid, cards with your friends, or solitaire by yourself. Take time to play throughout your day.
Quiet. Take time to be quiet throughout your day. Be still and silent with your thoughts, emotions, and self.
Raise your voice, but raise your hand. Speak up, but don’t speak over. Be heard, but don’t silence others.
Sparkle. Leave your glitter wherever you go. Be confident enough to make a shining impact on those you are around.
Treat others the way you wish to be treated. Enough said.
Understand that not everyone is like you. People need different things. People do things differently. People are different. You don’t need to like it, but you need to understand it, especially if they are people close to you.
Visit your parents. Visit as often as you can.
Walk with your head up. Confidence. Smile. Eye contact. Be pleasant. Be friendly.
eXplain your feelings. Don’t assume everyone knows how you feel.
You are only young once- yes, “YOLO” is a ridiculous term, but it’s meaningful if you take it out of the 14 year old language. Do the things you can and want to while you’re young and relatively responsibilities-free.
Zip your lips when you recognize that your opinions, help, and concern is not expected, wanted or heard. You have a voice, but you need to know when it’s appropriate to use it.